I just want to ride this wave of optimism because I’ve never felt so confident and lovable before. I don’t have a strong attachment to any man in particular right now.
I just really believe that love may be possible for me after all and I don’t want to quash any potential dates on the basis of some arbitrary rule.
Instead, "it's usually clear when you're not ready," says Susan Pease Gadoua, a therapist and author of .
That is, "when the very idea turns you off." But you can decide that you're ready to at least try.
Jennifer's, Samantha's and John's concerns are common, because according to the U. Census Bureau, 19.3 million Americans get divorced each year, and many of them date and eventually remarry.
Perhaps even thornier than pondering what to wear on a date, where to go, who pays—not to mention how you even find people to date in this brave new world of Internet match-ups—is getting over your reluctance to take a stab at it. "A divorced woman may feel very vulnerable at this stage, in part because she used to have a spouse to 'protect' her and now she has to go out into the world on her own," says Diana Kirschner, Ph D, author of .
Dating after divorce can be fun and exciting, yet there are a variety of factors that can influence this experience.
Your children and your own emotions can make the idea of dating after divorce seem scary or even out of the realm of possibility.
More importantly, I’m glad that you’re feeling relieved, happy and optimistic about what happens next – that you’re looking forward to your new lease on life, rather than being paralyzed by fear like so many other victims of abuse.
Which is why I want to tell you in the kindest, most non-professional way possible, that you can do WHATEVER THE HELL YOU WANT right now.