These questions are key primers, the ones to ask after you’ve said hello, and settled in somewhere comfortable.
Sure, they’re kind of snoozy, but they’ll set the tone for your date, and give you immediate things to talk about: “ 1.
But now and then you need to have a conversation that goes a bit deeper—that lets you know each other's likes and dislikes, strengths and weaknesses, hopes and dreams. To avoid pushing the limits beyond the point of no control, you need to set agreed-upon limits early on. More questions worth asking: Do both of you understand why God wants people to save sex for marriage? With "nothing to do," it's easy to fill up your time by becoming more physically involved than you should. That's why it's important to forgive each other.
Biggest clue of all: The salad course is punctuated by strained silence and forced small talk. Before we get to those, let’s review a few general guidelines for dating discourse: Listen as much or more than you talk.
The two pick at their dinner salads, staring down at the leafy mound before them. Finally, one of them tries to grease the wheels of conversation. Some people consider themselves skilled communicators because they can talk endlessly.
A foolproof way to ensure that conversation will always be flowing is to simply your date things, although—given the fact that we never know how comfortable others are with casual conversation—that might be easier said than done. Where exactly do you live in [insert your city or town here]? Questions over the first drink should be an equal mix of inquisitive and casual, and should allow you to start gauging his or her true personality.
The trick to successfully vetting a prospect on a first date, while simultaneously keeping the energy light and fun, is knowing what questions to ask and how to ask them. What are their likes and dislikes, what do you have in common, what does he or she do in their spare time?